My first memory of getting up and talking in front of people was a debate organised in Gortnor Abbey by Frank Mc Donnell. Or Moses as he was affectionately known. I can’t really remember what the debate was about but there was two teams of four. I was unprepared but a cocky 14 year old. I was supposed to wrap up and win the debate. My teammates Dave Muldowney and John Mc Donnell were quoting Shakspehere, Muldowney even brought reference to cows, methane gas and the ozone layer. This was high end debating.
It was my turn. I froze. I was unprepared (Mc Donnell more than likely got help from his older sister because that ass never read a book in his life!) I had no such older siblings. Either way. I fucked up. I knew it, the class knew it, the teacher knew it. I started quoting my team mates quotes. I was dying hoping to be swallowed up by the ground but there was no mistake. It was one of those situations that everyone in the room is mortified and just wants it all to end.
I have gotten coaching over the years with this. I went to Sinead Graham a business coach about 7 years ago where she introduced me to Neuro linguistic programming. Here I learned a tool called anchoring, this is where you set a physical positive anchor such as holding the fleshy part in between your thump and finger. By also opening up peripheral vision it slows my heart rate down and calms me. It was very effective when doing interviews back when I was a drug rep where I would become overcome my nerves and make an absolute hames of interviews. Id say close to 50.
When Emer Loftus asked me to be part of the Flaunt Girls Day out my immediate answer was yes. What an opportunity. However straight away I knew what my physical and mental state would be like on that stage!!
Considering the amount of coaching I have received to deal with anxiety and nerves. The fact that I am a fully blown Yoga instructor and can be in a state of zen, with help from The Navigation coach and others. I was about 14 thousand miles outside of my comfort zone yesterday. Sitting on stage looking down at 400 female eyes, the only fella. It was pretty daunting.
Here I am using all the tools at my disposal to remain calm. The amazing Charlene who helped my throughout was giving the mike to people to talk. I knew that if i took that mike the shake in my hand would have thrown it into the car park. The closer it got to my turn the higher my heart rate went and the more my knees rattled.
My turn. I talked about ”comfort zones” and how uncomfortable I was. But also the importance of getting out of ones comfort zone. As the saying goes it is where the magic happens. You will not grow as a person by remaining in the same place or skin without doing anything about the zone where you inhibit. Was I talking absolute shite at points. Probably, but the message was If you down there in that audience yesterday are afraid about taking the first step in your fitness journey or getting back on the fitness path. You must take that leap out of your comfort zone for this to happen.
It’s where the magic happens.
I was blessed with help on stage by the amazing Charlene from Charlene Flanagan make up. Unbeknownst to many so has the ability to help you along. Give you time to think and relax. She has skills that can not be taught or learned. You have them or you don’t!
If I had my way I would make Emer Loftus Lord Mayor of Ballina. To deliver such an event yesterday to the point and on point in every sense is no mean feat. I think she is one of the most amazing and savvy business women in the town and should be lauded for what she has done and can do. Given the budget I believe that Emer, would turn Ballina back into the county town that it was.
Thanks to everyone that came up to chat to me yesterday, if you did not get a chance I am always available online or on the line.
And please get out of your comfort zone at least once before the end of the year!!